Becoming A ‘Help Meet’ (4) by Pastor Faith Oyedepo

Topic — Becoming A ‘Help Meet’ (4)

Dear Reader,

Merry Christmas to you! The festive season is here again, it is my prayer that you receive the special package God has ordained for this season! By now, I believe you have been able to ascertain your position as a ‘help meet’ and to locate the area where you might have been hurting instead of helping your spouse. If you have not done that, I want you to do so right now, and ask God for grace to be a true help meet.

Today, I shall be teaching on Operating in Wisdom as a ‘Help Meet.’

Marriage can be likened to a house, and every house is built by men, using certain building materials. Wisdom is a good quality material for building your marriage and home.  The Bible says: Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established (Proverbs 24:3).

What then, is wisdom? It is knowing which way to go, how to handle situations and make them produce your desired results. Wisdom is knowing how to make it in life. When you know how to make things work in your family, you are walking in wisdom. Wisdom is also the correct application of knowledge. So, before you can walk in wisdom, you must locate the knowledge of the Word of God. You cannot blame God or anyone else for what your home looks like. The Word of God says: Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands (Proverbs 14:1).

God in His infinite wisdom has planned one man for one woman. Every woman in God’s design has her own home. However, what becomes of that home depends on the woman. This appears to be an awesome responsibility, but by the grace of God and hard work, it is accomplishable!

The Bible records the story of a woman, Abigail, who operated in wisdom and understanding. She took a wise step that changed the mind of David from committing murder, as seen in 1 Samuel 25.

You have a responsibility to engage wisdom whenever your husband takes a wrong decision that can affect your generation.  If your husband has certain weaknesses that you are strong in, appreciate his good points but point out his mistakes in a kind and gentle way.

You need wisdom as a ‘help meet’ to know “when” and “what” to say at the right time. Take the example of a woman whose husband is just returning from work, tired. Immediately after welcoming him, she announces to him not to expect any food, because there is nothing in the house. Are you wondering why he gets very angry?  Remember, “A hungry man is an angry man”! It may be true that there is no food in the house, but it was said in the wrong way, the wrong time, and the wrong place. It is foolishness to say things just at any time (Proverbs 29:11).

However, a wise woman still says what is in her heart, but she knows when and where to say it. Whenever there is a matter you want to resolve, locate the right place and time. It is not when your husband is hungry or tired and definitely not in the presence of his colleagues.

Wisdom can be reflected in the way you speak. Some women talk to their husbands rudely, using derogatory words. That is very wrong! You can convey your message or indifference by your choice of words. By speaking right and gracious words, you will draw your husband closer.

A sister said she had always encountered difficulties in her home, because she could not control her tongue. Here is her testimony:

“When I was ready for marriage, I noticed that some things were working against me.  But I was not a serious Christian then. However, when I dedicated my life fully to Jesus Christ in 1992, it became obvious that I lacked wisdom, counsel and was emotionally immature. All the same, I got married and the Lord has been merciful.

Nevertheless, on joining this church, from the different ministrations I received, my life and marriage received direction. Now, I am free from all manner of oppressions of the wicked. My family has been increased remarkably and I now apply myself to the wisdom of God that has been imparted!” – Opera, C. N.

Words can be correctly used to bring you favour with your spouse. Without doubt, right words spoken at the right time are of great value. In presenting an issue, your approach is very important. For instance, your approach may be right, but your tone could be demoralising. In most cases, friction in families, is as a result of saying the right thing at the wrong time, wrong place, or wrong tone. There is a due season for every word spoken!

However, it takes wisdom to speak right words and discern due season. Wisdom is the heritage of those born again. To become born again, you need to confess your sins and accept Jesus into your life as your Lord and personal Saviour. This grace is made available, by accepting Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour. If you are ready to receive grace, please say this prayer of faith: Dear Lord, I come to You today.  I am a sinner.  Forgive me of my sins.  Cleanse me with Your precious Blood.  I accept You as my Lord and Saviour.  Now I know I am born again!

Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name! Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org or08141320204, 07026385437.

For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

Pastor Faith Oyedepo is the wife of Bishop David Oyedepo, the founder of the Living Faith Church Worldwide a.k.a. Winners’ Chapel, and Senior Pastor of Faith Tabernacle, Canaanland, Ota, Nigeria.