Fulfilling Your Dream Marriage (5) by Pastor Faith Oyedepo

Topic: Fulfilling Your Dream Marriage (5)

Dear Reader,

You are most welcome to the last teaching of this month.  This week, I will be sharing with you on the “Perfect Tongue.”

God wanted to create a world that would be very good. His desire was implanted deep in His heart. The day He gave voice to His desire, our world was born. When He looked at all He had made, He put the final stamp of approval when He declared them to be “very good.” (Genesis 1:31). Even if the creation work was just good, as soon as God proclaimed that it was very good, the earth adjusted. There were no thorns, no thistles, no violence, no death – those were not part of the arrangement. It was disobedience that enthroned poverty in place of riches, sickness instead of health, death rather than life. God’s Word says: What man is he that desireth life, and loveth many days, that he may see good? Keep thy tongue from evil, and thy lips from speaking guile (Psalm 34:12, 13).

Whatever good you desire to see enthroned in your family, you can speak it into being; you have spoken enough negative things. You have spoken out of the information your mind has stored up for years. But the same mouth that has spoken the facts of life can speak the truth of the Word. If your marriage is good, it can be better. If it is better, it can be the best; and if it is the best it can be excellent and then perfect! God’s Word declares: For in many things we offend all. If any man offend not in word, the same is a perfect man, and able also to bridle the whole body (James 3:2).

What would constitute a perfect marriage? A perfect tongue! What is a perfect tongue? It is a tongue that selects what it says and one which speaks the truth of God’s Word rather than the facts of life. God has promised to grant the desires of your heart. As husband and wife, you owe it to yourselves and to God to verbalise your desire. You may desire life, but if you permit your tongue to speak death, you cannot have anything but death. Why? …He shall have whatsoever he saith (Mark 11:23).

Apostle Paul was aboard a ship. He had counselled the captain in charge to delay their trip. The Centurion did not. Nevertheless, a time came when a tempestuous wind rose against them. Later, Paul stood and declared that no life would be lost. An angel had disclosed this to him previously. Until he spoke, the angel had nothing to work with. Apostle Paul needed to establish it by verbalising the message (Acts 27:25). Paul was working on one principle: ….As truly as I live, saith the Lord, as ye have spoken in mine ears, so will I do to you (Numbers 14:28).

If Paul could by the confession of his mouth, save the lives of all on board the ship, you can save your marriage by the words of your mouth! Husbands can have the type of wives they desire by calling those things which be not as though they were (Romans 4:17). You want a submissive wife? Say, “Oh I thank God for my wife. She is so submissive, so caring. I appreciate you.” Soon, she will be meek and humble because her man has learnt to use his words correctly.

God had perfect control over His tongue and the use of His mouth. He always says what He means and means what He says, so He always had perfect results.

Esther had an unbelieving husband, but by the wise use of her tongue, she won his favour for the Jews (her people). Every man can be won by his wife, but her behaviour and speech will either hasten a turn-around or put it off (1 Peter 3:1). God is available to turn your situations around, but He won’t speak to those situations for you, you must do so by yourself.

God has turned several ‘captivities’ for you in times past. However, if you want Him to keep turning your “bitter” to “sweet” and your “shame” to “glory”, you must allow your mouth to be full of laughter and your tongue with singing. The tongue was designed as an instrument of praise and a weapon of war. When you adopt a lifestyle of praise, every hopeless situation bows. Your tongue was not designed for murmuring, complaining or uttering careless words; rather it was created for appreciating God.

Hezekiah received the news from prophet Isaiah that he would die (Isaiah 38:1, 19). He did not hesitate; he turned to the wall and cried out to God. One thing, out of several, which he said was: The living, the living he shall praise thee, as I do this day… For the right use of the tongue, Hezekiah had fifteen extra years added to him! Many years are subtracted from some people’s lives because they speak death instead of life. Many marriages crash landed after taking off, because of the wrong use of the tongue. No matter how bad your spouse is he/she can change, if you force your tongue to utter only positive words. Words can change the destiny of men.

Do you have a personal relationship with God? If not, you have to confess your sins and accept Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour. If you are ready to be born again, please say this prayer of faith with me:  “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”

If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, congratulations, you are born again! You are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name. Call or write to share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.

For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).