Pastor Faith Oyedepo: Right Character for Right Marriage [Part 3]

Topic: Right Character for Right Marriage [Part 3]

Dear Reader,

There is dignity in marriage, but it takes the right character to attract it. Character commands unction, unction commands dignity. Character crisis is the reason for failure of most marriages.

Today, I will be sharing with you another aspect of living that makes for a successful marital life – Companionship.

Companionship is the relationship between friends, who share similar tastes, interest and views. It is impossible to amount to anything outside the company you keep. You cannot expect to live a better life than your companions, if they are truly your friends. This explains why the Bible says: He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed (Proverbs 13:20).

A friend is someone with whom you and your family relate intimately. He is someone you identify with, share common experience with and bare your mind to. This simple definition of a friend shows that not everybody is a friend. So, you need to always use the Word of God in selecting who should be your friend.

The one who keeps company with wise men is the one who will be wise, but the companions of fools will not only be foolish, but will ultimately be destroyed. One thing some Christians fail to understand is that one cannot flow together with every believer, simply because the person calls himself your family friend.

Who is your family friend? You cannot be a Christian and your family friend will be an unbeliever or a muslim. What companionship are you forming with an unbeliever? Anyone who is lacking in Christian character should never be your family friend. You must obey the command in 2 Thessalonians 3:6, which says: …. That ye withdraw yourselves from every brother that walketh disorderly…

So many call themselves family friends, but they have not disciplined themselves, to refrain from certain habits. I believe that the choice of your family friend does not only affect what the future of your marital life will be, but it could also determine the success or failure of your marriage. Hence, your family’s vision, goal or target in life should determine your choice of family friends.

As a believer who desires a right family, you must make up your mind to dissociate yourself from every friend that thinks or talks contrary to the Word of God. Have a good family friend and your marital life will be moulded. May God bring you in contact with friends that will skyrocket you and your family to your place in destiny. May you never keep a company that will keep you away from God.

The type of company you keep will either make you or break your marriage. It was a friend that made Ammon, David’s son to commit incest (2 Samuel 13:1-4). He later paid for the wrong company he kept with his life.

Most couples, who find themselves in all forms of evil today, got into them via wrong company. One major reason why couples are enticed to join wrong company, is because they are not bold enough to identify with the Lord Jesus Christ. Let people know your stand for God. Go to Church together, pray together, and engage in God’s programmes together. Your marriage shall not fail in Jesus’ name!

In case you don’t know whom to pick as your family friend, ask God in prayer and He will give you direction. Disallow your spouse, children, etc. to keep wrong company. This is because the effect of the company you keep will sooner or later affect your marriage and family. Your marriage and family will succeed in Jesus’ name.

Are you born-again? If you are not, you don’t have genuine access to operate the mind of Christ that can help you select a good companion (1 Corinthians 2:16). However, God’s grace of salvation is extending to you right now. If you desire to be born again, say this simple prayer in faith:

“Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today as a sinner. Forgive me of my Sins. I believe You died and rose on the third day for my sins. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”

If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, and conselling@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores:

Marriage Covenant
Making Marriage Work
Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

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