Vital Forces for a Happy Home (4) by Pastor Faith Oyedepo

Author: Pastor Faith Oyedepo

Topic: Vital Forces for a Happy Home (4)

Dear Reader,

Dear Reader,


HAPPY EASTER TO YOU! The death and resurrection of Christ will not be a waste in your life in Jesus’ name! We have examined some vital forces for a happy home. They include: Your Vibrant Relationship with God, Love and, Excitement and Gratitude. This week, I will be sharing on how to Rekindle the Fire and Keep Passion Alive in your home.

By Daily Maintenance

Marriage, like Spiritual re-birth takes regular maintenance. You might be tempted to think that once you are married, the work is over. Actually, the work is just beginning. If marriage doesn’t have daily maintenance, it will fall apart much faster than any machine. If we make it a spiritual discipline to love God and our spouses, we will find true happiness. Also, to maintain your marriage, you must continue to do those things you did in courtship, before you got marriage.  You can still fall in love again.

By Spending Time Together

Learn to spend time with your spouse. You need to create time for fun. You can go out on a date, stroll together, play games, etc (Genesis 26:8, Songs of Solomon 2:4). You must make yourself available to your spouse, whenever he or she needs you. No matter how choked up you are in activities, you must create room for your spouse by making yourself available (Ephesians 5:24). Similar to conversation, time spent together also drops rapidly after the honeymoon. Life becomes busy. Bills need to be paid; the home must be maintained and the children require attention. But all of life’s demands should not be at the expense of spending quality time together.

You need to schedule outings, as if you were dating again. Do not allow months to pass without spending at least several hours together on a date. When you begin to do this, you will become intimate with your spouse. One of the reasons some marriages fail is a lack of intimacy.

Little Things that will spark off your love for your spouse

• Remember your first dates together. If possible, re-enact that first date. Nothing seems to spark the flames as to remember your first fun times together.
• Court again. Do what you did to win the affections of your mate. Spend some time alone together. This is especially important, if you have children. It is essential for you as a couple to date and for your children to see you together.
• Make time for each other. In today’s busy society, days can go by without couples spending time together.
• Another way to spend time together is to practise “couch time.” Spend at least 15 minutes sitting together on the couch without the children. If you have children, stress the importance of your “Mommy and Daddy time” together. Not only do you have precious moments together, but your children will gain security knowing that their mommy and daddy enjoy spending time together.
• Show appreciation for the little things. An occasional card, flowers, meaningful gift or even just a simple “thank you” can mean so much.
• Say, “I love you” often. Reveal you care by your words and your actions.
• Always give your spouse a goodbye hug and kiss, before leaving in the morning.
• At the end of the day, greet your spouse with a hug, kiss and “how was your day?”
• Take time to really communicate and understand your spouse. Share your feelings with each other.
• Remain faithful in thoughts and deeds. Purity before marriage and fidelity after marriage is not only healthy from a physical viewpoint (prevention of AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases), but from a marital perspective, as well. Nothing destroys a marriage quicker than infidelity.
• God made sex pleasurable. The married couple has nothing to be ashamed of; so, enjoy it!
• Don’t belittle your spouse, especially in front of others. Respect your spouse, even when you disagree.
• Wives, build up your husband’s ego: honour and respect him.
• Husbands, treat your wife like the queen you want her to be.
• Christian couples should read the Bible, pray and attend functions together.

The grace to give it all it takes to enjoy a happy home is only available to those who are bona fide children of God. You can assume that status by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are ready for this new birth experience, please say this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”

If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).