Making Right choices in Marriage (4) by Pastor Faith Oyedepo

Author: Pastor Faith Oyedepo

Topic: Making Right choices in Marriage (4)

Dear Reader,

You are welcome to this exciting column in Jesus’ name.  From the beginning of the month, I discussed the first step you need to take in making the right choice, God’s pattern for your choice and last week, I taught on choices in three realms.  Today, I will be showing you some powerful keys in making the right choice.

When a believer is prepared to move by faith and obedience, God’s best will be found. In the beginning, God said: It is not good for man to be alone (Genesis 2:18). He knows what is best for us and so, provides a “help-mate”. Marriage is what He has instituted. It is the God-given relationship for the display of our natural affections and desires.

Have a desire:

It is the Lord’s will for you to have a life partner, if you desire one. In the beginning when God created Adam, God Himself made this statement: …It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him (Genesis 2:18). Your desire for a partner is not carnal but spiritual if you follow God’s approach, because God ordained marriage and He says that it is honourable.

The Word of God says: But the desire of the righteous shall be granted (Proverbs 10:24). What you don’t desire, you don’t deserve.  Until you sincerely desire a partner, God cannot grant your heart’s desire.  Therefore, admit publicly and privately without feeling ashamed or embarrassed. Admit it also before God and man. Don’t pretend not to need one when you actually do.  If an occasion arises for you to declare your stand on the issues, be bold about it. The Word of God says: Delight thyself in the Lord; and He shall give thee the desires of thine heart.  Commit thy way unto the Lord; trust also in Him; and He shall bring it to pass (Psalm 37:4 5). As a child of God, God is ever ready to give you the desires of your heart, if your desire is in place.

Make the Word of God your guide:

By this, you must know that your inheritances in Christ are wrapped up in the Word of God.  God’s Word is the answer book to all questions of life.  You need to know the provisions God made for marriage from His Word. God’s Word contains all things that make for life and godliness, including marriage.  When you make the Word of God the foundation for your search, you can be sure of success, no matter your age, colour or educational qualification.

As a child of God, the Word of God says: …It is not good that the man should be alone… (Genesis 2:18). This simply means that it is good for a man to be united with a woman in marriage.  God does not withhold good things from His children (Psalms 84:11). The Word of God also says: They that seek the Lord shall not want any good thing (Psalms 34:10). From these two scriptures, it is obvious that your heritage of a life partner, as you continually serve God in truth and spirit, will not be denied you.  Serve God with Joy, gladness and a pure heart of love for Him, then He will find you faithful and give you your partner. The Word of God says: But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you (Matthew 6:33).

Seek God’s face in prayer:

The most important decision of our lives, of course, is our decision to follow the Lord. Marriage is the second major choice we make in our lives and we must never enter into it without much prayer. To rush into marriage can be disastrous. This is because marriage is boldly and clearly presented in the Bible as a life-long commitment. It is obviously a union that should not be entered into on the basis of romantic sentiment, careless thinking, or careless desire.  Choosing a life-partner is a lifetime decision and God’s intervention is highly indispensable. A major way of ensuring God’s involvement in a matter is by seeking His face in prayer.  The Word of God says: Commit thy way unto the Lord; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass (Psalms 37:5). You need to come to God in prayer with an open spirit.  Be confident that He wants the best for you.  Be specific in prayer.  Tell God the kind of partner you want.  Identify your God-given vision in life and ask God for a partner that will complement that vision.

The Word of God says: …For every one that asketh receiveth… (Matthew 7:8).  Some people express the fear that God may give them someone they do not want, when they commit everything unreservedly into His hands.  Some people do not pray at all about it.  This kind of thinking shows that they are not confident of God’s love for them.  They see God as wicked and are not sure of His ability to be a father to them.

The Word of God says: If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children, how much more shall your Father which is in heaven give good things to them that ask him? (Matthew 7:11). Just as no earthly parent will give a harmful thing to a child, God is more loving than earthly parents.  Be sure, therefore, that God will give you a partner after His own heart.

It is only the heart’s desire of the righteous that can be granted, not that of the unrighteous.  You need to surrender your life to Christ in order to have a right standing with God, so that your heart’s desire will be granted.  You become born again as you confess your sins and accept Jesus as your Lord and Saviour.  If you are set for this new birth experience, please say this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today as a sinner.  Forgive me my sins. I believe You died and rose on the third day for my sins.  I accept You as my Lord and Saviour.  Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”

Congratulations, you are now born again! I believe that you will begin to experience the reality of the price that Jesus paid for your sins at Calvary. All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you in Jesus’ Name!

Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Single with a Difference Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored)